Baby Showers

Hostess of the Shower?

Anyone can plan the shower -- family members, friends and/or co-workers. A mommy-to-be can have many showers but it is wise to consult her or her mother (if it is a surprise) so that the themes can all be different -- this also avoids duplication of gift items.

Before the Baby or After the Baby is Born?

For first-time mothers, showers before the baby arrives are great fun for her to look forward to in the last month of her pregnancy -- and she and the daddy can play and dream with all the gifts while awaiting their bundle of joy. Mothers having their second or more children, sprinkles can be held before or after the baby is born. The up side of holding the shower after the baby's birth is that gifts can be chosen by the sex of the baby.

Who Pays for the Shower?

The person that plans and invites the guests pays and it is usually considered her gift. Often times, several people will get together and share the expenses. Potlucks are not only fun but budget-saving, as well.

Who Should be Invited?

Traditionally, anyone that was invited to the wedding can be invited to baby showers. The best idea is to consult with the new mommy and daddy. Avoid inviting the same people to more than one shower, although some people want to attend several. Best to invite by groups, for example, co-workers, church, etc. The mothers and grandmothers of the mommy and daddy should be invited to all of the showers but it is up to them to decide which ones they will attend.

When Should the Shower Be Held?

Four to six weeks before the baby's birth -- or -- four weeks after the baby is born.

Does the Shower Have to be Held on a Weekend?

The shower can be held any day of the week and at any time of the day that is convenient for the mommy and the invited guests. It can be a brunch, lunch, dinner or just cake and punch. It can be casual, formal or better yet -- a fun baby shower theme.

Is It Acceptable to Serve Cake and Punch Instead of a Meal?

Cake and Punch is very appropriate and makes for a shorter shower. Serving any meal is strictly up to the hostess. If food is served, plan on buffet-style and remember to provide either real dishes or sturdy papergoods because food does get heavy. If it is not a sit-down meal (restaurant or hall), remember that guests have to balance their plate, beverage and napkin on their lap.

To Invite the Daddy or Not Invite the Daddy?

Traditionally, the daddy did not attend showers but does arrive at the end of the shower to say hello to everyone, help load the gifts into the car and to take his wife home. Now-a-days, the daddy can be invited to a baby shower and couple's showers (men and women) are becoming more and more popular.